When an individual becomes an adult, his childish behaviors disappear and the person becomes more mature in every way. This is actually one of the fundamental characteristics of human development.
As we grow, our way of interpreting and therefore handling life changes completely. During the course of this development, there will be times when we will feel emotionally distressed. These emotional disturbances are at their highest in the teenage years. Most people evolve with the ability to cope with all of these emotional factors. They learn how to handle problems in your life.
What is an emotionally immature personality?
People with immature personalities are unable to cope with stressful situations and often hold a worldview that originates within their own imagination. They can be overly emotional and easily lose their nerves. They are also often extremely intolerant of frustration.
10 signs to detect an immature personality
Mainly they are people who present emotional and character traits typical of childhood as if time had not passed for them.
Here are 10 signs to detect an immature personality:
1. Instability and emotional lability
Young children often go from being angry to crying uncontrollably and within minutes or even seconds to laughing again. Luckily adults rarely do, but an immature personality can change moods just as easily. They are especially emotionally labile, they do not know how to control their emotions.
2. Difficulty adapting to changes
Changes are part of life. Children are also affected by this, of course, but generally, it is adults who guide them and make most of the decisions for them. An immature person has not managed to acquire the necessary skills to handle situations and respond to problems, they still wait for someone to do it for them and they lack perspective for the future.
3. Lack of self-knowledge and poorly defined personality
Like young children, an immature person has great difficulty in observing himself, assessing his behavior, reflecting in-depth on his way of being or thinking, as well as understanding when he is wrong to correct his mistakes and mature accordingly. Among other things, this also causes him to be tremendously influential, allowing himself to be carried away by other people’s opinions, passing fashions, or the influence of anyone he takes as a leader at that time. This is what is commonly understood as a “lack of personality.” It is difficult for him to take positions clearly on something or someone.
4. Capricious and irresponsible behaviors
It is known to all that young children are driven by immediate cravings and gratifications, they like to get what they want without thinking about the consequences. An emotionally immature person acts in the same way. When he wants something, he goes for it, thinking only of the reward and without taking into account whether or not his actions may cause harm to those around him.
5. Blame, lie, insult
When things go wrong for them, young children almost always blame any external person or thing as the source of their misfortune. For them to assume their own guilt is something tremendously difficult because they are forming their self-concept and they need to believe that it is good enough. When we mature, we know how to recognize our mistakes and look for ways to solve problems.
When a situation arises that is uncomfortable, young children can easily lie to stay out of trouble. Adults, on the other hand, deal with reality, telling the truth, something that an emotionally immature person does not do either.
We have all gotten into some dialectical fight from time to time. But usually, an adult person tries to understand the situation and react with respect and dignity towards the other person. If for some reason he loses his papers, he often realizes that his outburst was inappropriate. Children, on the other hand, lose this control much more quickly and fight and insult easily. Children who have not yet correctly internalized mature guidelines for respectful behavior towards others have not developed the ability to observe their behaviors to judge what is correct and what is out of place, they see their anger as something normal, they justify themselves and blame the other person without qualms. This is what an emotionally immature person does ..
6. Impatience and impulsiveness, poor impulse control
When angry or in pain, children are impulsive and thoughtless, they act from the heart. They speak without measuring their words and are impetuous, without stopping to think about the possible consequences of their actions. Likewise, instead of listening to the points of view of others, they impulsively interrupt them.
Mature people stop to think before they act, resisting the urge to just say or do hurtful things. They know how to calm down. They can look beyond the problem for more information and options analysis. Make no mistake, acting on impulse from time to time is a normal characteristic of human behavior, what happens is that it is not something that occurs regularly or in any environment by a mature personality.
7. Lack of realistic objectives and approaches
Most children are fickle, impatient, and aim to achieve their goals quickly, almost immediately. They find it tremendously difficult to maintain the serenity required by being able to postpone gratification until later, so they tend to act in a primary way, guided almost exclusively by current cravings, instincts, and desires, regardless of the consequences that such behaviors may entail. . This prevents them from making realistic approaches to achieve their goals, since they see the present much more clearly than the future due to their lack of emotional balance, solid ethical criteria and stable values.
8. Difficulty accepting your own failures and limitations
We have already seen in point 3 that immature people have little knowledge of themselves. For this same reason, they are unable to accept with sufficient maturity and responsibility for their own failures and limitations. It is much easier for them to see the straw in the other’s eye than the beam in it, as the saying dictates, exactly as it happens to a small child. The intolerance and inflexibility they maintain towards others contrast with the condescension they can show themselves, which is just another manifestation of their internal incoherence.
Children are narcissistic and self-centered by nature. A narcissistic personality presents an overwhelming need for admiration and, generally, a total lack of empathy towards others, but at the same time, they are emotionally very fragile personalities. Everything revolves around them, no one else counts, and if they don’t get away with it, they seek to intimidate the other with anger, crying, and everything that can be shown to make them listen to them and carry out their whims immediately.
Narcissistic attitudes may initially seem typical of strong people, but deep down they reflect rigidity of character, low self-confidence, and a need for recognition at all costs. It is a sign of low confidence in one’s own worth and a very limited capacity to accept frustration.
10. Superficial, rigid, and demanding effective relationships
Emotionally immature people tend to idealize others at first, but soon after being let down by any trifle and respond with rigid and demanding attitudes. On an emotional level, it is difficult for them to be involved in a sincere and deep way with another person, because for them the first thing is themselves and their demands. This is what is commonly understood as a “lack of personality.”
11. Immature defenses
Freud coined the term defense mechanisms to define the ways in which people protect themselves and/or get what they want. Adults use these defense mechanisms to understand the concerns of others, as well as their own, and to be able to solve life problems like getting food, becoming stable, etc. These responses to difficulties are a sign of psychological maturity.
Children, like emotionally immature people, tend to consider the best defense to be a good offense. This defensive strategy of attacking anyone is actually a primitive and unreasonable defense mechanism. Another type of primitive defense is denial, such as saying, “I didn’t say that!” “I never did that!” “It’s not my fault!” When in reality we all do or say inappropriate things at times.
To err is human, and to recognize our mistakes is a sign of maturity.